A little over two years ago, Jeremy and I hit a rough spot. Being young, a couple of years into our marriage with no children, and barely the time between work and school to look at one another, we almost called it quits. The big 'D' word was thrown around quite a bit for a good week and I even went as far as to pack a small bag, certain that I would leave and not return unless it was to get the rest of my belongings.
But my husband and I - we are not quitters. We sat down, like the young-adults we were, and discussed the situation, our feelings and whether or not we had really given our marriage a fighting chance.
We hadn't.
Let's be honest, most people anymore give up without out even really trying first.
So we attempted to fix the 'light bulb'. We asked for a few mentors to pray for us daily, we talked about how we were really feeling and we took 'The Love Dare' together.
On day 40, our marriage had been transformed into something beautiful again. You can read my post from that day here.
The truth was, we hadn't even tried to fight for our marriage . We had let the world around us tell us that something 'better' was out there and that a 'failed' marriage is just the way things are.
But we knew better.
We knew that our marriage was worth fighting for.
We are selfish creatures by nature and anytime that I start to feel unhappy about our marriage, I stop, I talk about it and then I reevaluate what I am doing in our marriage. Most of the time, the feelings I am having stem from my own insecurities and feelings of discontent because I'm the one who's failed as a Godly, caring and present wife.
When I'm struggling to hold on, my prayer is always that God will show ME how I've failed. Pointing fingers and blame only causes more harm. I'm happy to say that although there are rough spots and days when I feel ignored and at the bottom of the priority list, I know my marriage is worth fighting for. And as long as my husband will fight with me, I know that we will have a beautiful marriage that will withstand any kind of bumps in the road.
Why I Love My Husband (The Never-Ending List)
7) He considers our marriage worth fighting for.
8) He always kisses me goodbye.
9) He tells everyone how important his wife and son are to him.
10) He fixes everything that I break.
11) He plays into my home-improvement 'fantasies'.
12) He takes out the trash, shovels the walks and mows the lawn - all so that I don't have to.
LOVE IT...
ReplyDeleteI have been in the shoes too. Tim and I hit a hard spot many years ago. There were fights and we really didn't like each other much..even though we were still in love. It has made us stronger that we stuck it out. God being the center of our relationship is the glue that holds us together.
Laura@MiceInTheKitchen
I agree, Laura, without God we'd be doomed. Sticking it out just makes it all the sweeter and I know that every relationship hits those bumps and that's when the choice has to be made to fight or walk away. Too many people choose to walk away these days!
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ReplyDeleteMy mother-in-law gave me some great words of wisdom before my husband and I were married: "There will be days that you won't like each other much. But, even if you don't like each other you still love each other." She nailed it.
She certainly did! It is so very true.
DeleteSO very glad it has worked out for you two and you didn't give up. That quote up there is absolutely perfect for relationships and I look forward to more additions to the 'never-ending' list!
ReplyDeleteThanks Sarah! I'm looking forward to adding more to the list too. When you really start looking, it's really easy to find a bazillion reasons why you love someone!
DeleteI love that you weren't quitters because now we get to read all about your fabulous relationship (and your never ending list!). Thanks for linking up, Jenn! Enjoying reading your list (#10 is priceless). Let's do it again next Thursday. Fun times.
ReplyDeleteI do manage to break pretty much everything so I'm really grateful that he can fix it! Haha! I'm really enjoying getting to know you and linking up with you every Thursday!
DeleteI absolutely love this! Kyle and I had a really rough 1st year of marriage, but like you said it was worth fighting for. :)
ReplyDeleteI've always heard that the first year of marriage is the hardest. I'm glad that you two roughed it out as well, you're such a great couple!
DeleteI can completely relate, thank you so much for sharing your heart. You sound like one amazing couple :)
ReplyDeleteWe are something, haha! Thanks Ashley!
DeleteAfter 12 years of marriage, I can relate to 'rough patches'. We've had our fair share. I am thankful for God's mercy and grace that keeps carrying us through.
ReplyDeleteHe is amazing like that! With God as our center, we know we can overcome anything!
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